Why does it feel like our family is so divided?

Your family has not turned out the way you expected. You pictured a life full of laughter, trust, and closeness. But that's not what you're seeing. Maybe there’s nothing visibly wrong—but you feel like you’re all ships passing in the night. Everyone is living their own lives while living under the same roof. 

Family can be more than this. Your family can be a group of unique and empowered individuals who still feel close and connected to one another. 

Families don't just fall into connection. They have to learn how to create space and empower each other to be heard, and to not allow the busyness of their lives dictate the family culture. As you have important conversations in therapy and practice key skills on a daily basis, you will set your family on a trajectory for lifelong connection, building a legacy for generations to come.

The counseling process:

Therapy will help you identify the areas your family needs focus. The therapist will help you build tools to improve these areas of your family relationships and have you practice them. You will be asked to put the strategies you learn into practice between sessions in order to help your family feel connected and revitalized.


Each therapy session is 50 minutes long. Your therapist may suggest longer sessions; this will be discussed prior to your session. For best results in improving your family relationships, we recommend at least eight consecutive weeks of therapy. We have found that clients who do not commit to weekly sessions for eight weeks struggle to find satisfaction in meeting their goals and developing the relationship they want.


What to Expect

Week 1:

The first week is the family intake session. We suggest that only you and your spouse come to the intake session; other family members may come to the following sessions. The intake session is focused on helping demystify the counseling process. Your therapist will go through your completed paperwork and make sure that you and your partner understand what you are consenting to in therapy. Your therapist will also gather more information about you (and your family), your social, biological, and psychological history; and anything else that may be impacting your family. Your therapist will make sure that we clearly understand your family goals for therapy and have a plan moving forward.

Week 2 and the following weeks:

Your therapist will choose treatment strategies that best fit you and help you regain stability in your family. Each session will be focused on the therapist working with you to make sure you feel you are improving. This may require you to practice strategies during your week, between sessions.


Intermountain Counseling is committed to creating a safe, warm, and welcoming environment for you so you feel empowered and equipped to overcome the obstacles in your family.


Termination is the agreed-upon ending of the therapeutic relationship once goals are achieved and takes 1 to 3 sessions, depending on your needs. Therapy should be a springboard into life; your therapist will work with you, and your family, to determine that you feel your goals have been met and that you are satisfied with what you have worked on.