What if I don’t want to talk about my trauma but still want to regain control of my life?

Traumatic memories can pop up unexpectedly—and when they do, it feels like you can't control your emotions. You try to avoid situations that remind you of what happened because it feels like your memories have control over you.

Talking about trauma sounds terrifying, like it will only lead to more pain. And while facing what happened is the price to take back control of your life, it feels like the price is too high. 

Often trauma happened early in life, or so long ago that you may not fully remember what you went through—you just have the mental and emotional scars to show for the experience. But if you can’t remember what happened, how can you even face it?

EMDR—a tool that uses brain science to rewire trauma responses—can be a transformational way to re-process and move through trauma.

If talk therapy hasn’t been effective in addressing your traumatic experiences, EMDR may help free you from your past. It won't change what happened to you, 

but it can unstick your memory and help you acknowledge the fact of trauma without feeling the overpowering emotion of its impact.

Through EMDR, you will learn how to:

  • understand what is happening in your mind and your body

  • know what sets off your trauma response

  • know just what to do if you’re triggered

  • feel like you can fully engage in your relationships again

  • feel like you're in control of yourself again

You will benefit most from EMDR if:

  • you want to work through your trauma 

  • you know your trauma causes problems in your life

  • you are interested in learning how trauma has affected your mind and body

  • you have coping skills or are willing to learn them 

  • you are willing to practice the tools your therapist gives you on a daily basis

The counseling process:

Therapy will help you identify the areas of life where trauma has impacted you and is currently negatively affecting your life. The therapist will help you with coping skills and lead you through practices that heal your brain so that you can adapt to what stresses you.


Each therapy session is 50 minutes long, but may be increased to 90 minutes (please note 90 minute sessions are be discussed prior to your session if the longer time is appropriate). For best results in treating trauma, we recommend at least eight consecutive weeks of therapy. We have found that clients who do not commit to weekly sessions for eight weeks struggle to find satisfaction in meeting their goals and regaining control in their lives.


What to Expect

Week 1:

The first week is the intake session. The intake session is focused on helping demystify the counseling process. Your therapist will go through your completed paperwork and make sure that you understand what you are consenting to in therapy. Your therapist will also gather more information about you, your social, biological, and psychological history; and anything else that may be impacting your situation. Your therapist will make sure that we clearly understand your goals for therapy and have a plan moving forward.

Week 2 and THE FOLLOWING weeks:

Your therapist will begin to work with you on the eight phases of EMDR (note: due to the complexity of trauma work, EMDR may take more than eight sessions). At the beginning of each phase, your therapist will explain the process and the goals.


Phase One: Your history and treatment planning

Phase Two: Preparation - Coping Strategies

Phase Three: Assessment

Phase Four: Desensitization

Phase Five: Installation

Phase Six: Body Scan

Phase Seven: Closure

Phase Eight: Reevaluation


Termination is the agreed-upon ending of the therapeutic relationship once goals are achieved and takes 1 to 3 sessions, depending on your needs. Therapy should be a springboard into life; your therapist will work with you to determine that you feel your goals have been met and that you are satisfied with what you have worked on.