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COUPLES COUNSELING

Why does my relationship feel so hard?

Your relationship feels painful, distant, or difficult. You’ve invested so much, but you’re filled with doubt about the future. Why does this relationship feel so much harder than it used to? Why doesn't it feel more exciting? Other people’s relationships seem to have a spark, a genuine closeness and enjoyment of the other person—why doesn’t yours? You value your relationship and the person you’re in relationship with, so you feel motivated to move toward a healthier dynamic. 

 

Relationship counseling can feel intimidating, particularly if your partner doesn't have the same focus or goals that you do. But there is power and hope in making the choice to face things together.

You can pursue valuable growth and change.

Your relationship used to feel full of life. You enjoyed each other. You trusted each other. But that all feels like a distant memory. These days, you feel like you're tiptoeing around each other, like anything you say or do could set the other person off. You know you can't go on this way.

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Maybe counseling is something that you hope will breathe some fresh life into your relationship. Or perhaps counseling feels like a last-ditch effort to stay together. Maybe you’ve experienced infidelity or cheating in your relationship and it just doesn’t feel like something you can get through.

But your relationship doesn’t have to stay this way.

You can work together to create a relationship with the commitment you crave. You can learn to value each other and enjoy talking to each other. You can even put the romance back in your relationship!

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Counseling will help you navigate difficult conversations and give you tools that can change the trajectory of your relationship—creating health and vitality for years and decades to come.

 

The process won't be easy, but if you're willing to work together, counseling can help your relationship grow into something more beautiful than you ever thought it could be.

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Through counseling, you will learn how to:

  • feel more connected to your partner

  • understand what is happening in your relationship when there’s tension

  • use skills that help you work through conflict rather than fight

  • know what to do when you’re frustrated with your partner

  • know what to do when you don’t feel heard 

You will benefit most from relationship counseling if:

  • you’re tired of walking on eggshells

  • your partner is open to being in therapy with you

  • you’re willing to be open and honest about your experiences and are willing to hear your partner’s perspective in session too

  • you’re willing to learn new strategies to help your relationship

  • you are willing to practice the tools your therapist gives you on a daily basis

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